Now that I’ve learned how to bring out the best in my husband, what’s next?
Answer: Enjoy your husband.
When a couple gets married, they look to each other for companionship. They cleave together, preferring each others company. The mindset behind this companionship is that they are stuck together, glued together, to be closely joined together. It’s also adhering to one another in affection, fidelity and duty. This is the way a husband and wife enjoy companionship and cleave together.
I love, love, love to be with my husband. It’s my all time, absolute favorite! We’ve been married for over 15 years and I still get giddy excited to see him and can’t wait to spend time with him. He is my best friend, my lover, the light of my life, and the one person I love to spend time with the most.
I look forward to waking up together, having coffee together, helping the kids get ready for school, having breakfast together and talking about our day together. I enjoy planning his favorite meals for the week and keeping the life flow of the family smooth so that we can enjoy the peace and love of each other. I think about the things he might need or I text or write him love notes. I love our family dinners together and I love when my husband and I sit next to each other, kiss and hold hands every chance we get. I love our evenings together and our weekly date nights.
We each have our own full-time businesses and jobs and 3 children, volunteering, our own interests and our own hobbies; but we continually endeavor to keep each other and our time together at the forefront of our thinking and planning. Planning our time together is a priority. Sometimes we plan in advance and sometimes it’s on the fly, but we always make time for each other everyday.
The details of your companionship will have to be worked out in your marriage. But do work on it. Talk about what each of you want in the companionship of your marriage to keep each other first and the most blessed. Spoil each other outrageously everyday!
Think of the sweetest romance movie or two high school sweethearts or two people who just got engaged. They are entranced by each other. All they want is to be together. The love notes, kindness, happiness, giddiness, and over all joy is delightful to see. This is the heart and mindset we want to have through all the seasons of life in our marriage.
If your life is too busy to spend time with and enjoy your husband; then you need to make your marriage a priority and get rid of what’s getting in the way of your sweet companionship. Too many activities? The marriage is the center of the family and all else revolves around it. Talk to your husband, make a plan to spend more time together. Write down the details of how you are going to make companionship a priority in your marriage.
Here’s an example of our together time in a given week:
Wake up together and spend time together in the morning.
Coffee, breakfast, lunches & get kids ready for school together.
Always a sweet text to or from one of us.
3 or 4 family dinners together is our goal.
We sit together at our daughter’s basketball or volleyball games.
Homework together with the children during the week.
After the kids are in bed, we sit next to each other and read or work together.
An evening date every Friday or Saturday.
Coffee at our favorite coffee shop every Saturday or Sunday.
A walk around the lake every Saturday or Sunday.
We talk, talk, talk about things going on in our work, about the children, about our dreams and plans. We talk about our marriage and ways to improve and make it stronger and how to have more fun and relaxing, restful time.
This is just an example of a given week. It changes constantly, but we are determined to spend as much time together as we possibly can. Even when he or I need to be alone, we still enjoy the idea of knowing that the other is happy doing what blesses them.
Another example of companionship is just knowing where the other is. I have great peace and love just knowing that my husband is in his studio painting while I’m playing chess with my daughter or gardening. Sometimes it’s just knowing the presence of each other that fulfills the companionship.
The bottom line is that companionship in marriage is the where the sweetness of life resides. The world is a busy place and we need to fight to focus and keep the companionship with our husbands a priority everyday.
What do you do to enjoy sweet companionship with your husband?
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