My husband and I have been married for 14 years. These 14 years have been the best years of my life, and my marriage is exceeding, abundantly above all I could ever ask or think. 100% the best ALL the time.
One secret is dating.
When my husband and I met, we dated for about 8 months and were engaged for 8 months. Dating was fun, exciting, and wonderful. We couldn't wait to see each other. I planned my outfits days in advanced. Benjamin made plans for us every week. I made special plans for us as well.
Before we got married we took marriage classes with our reverend. He taught us many great things about marriage. One thing he told us was, to continue to date.
God bless my wonderful husband, because he took that advice seriously, and we have been dating every week for 14 years. Every week. We've only missed if someone was sick (and even then, we'd reschedule).
When the children were babies, dating looked very different than it does today.
Today we have three girls in elementary school and middle school. Our week is completely booked. Family dinners are few and far between. On some days, we are like ships passing in the night.
However, one thing has remained set in stone. Date night. Friday night Benjamin and I go out, without fail. Through thick and thin, busy or not, rich or poor, tired or preoccupied, happy or sad -- that doesn't matter. Our Friday night date has no compromises.
If I'm feeling tired I'll go to bed early Thursday, take a nap on Friday, or do whatever it takes to be my best for our date.
Some weeks, I'm exhausted, and the last thing I want to do is go out. But I always do, and I'm always glad I did.
Spending time with my husband, away from the house and kids every week, is the air I breath. Our time together is for us to connect, talk, laugh, rest, plan and enjoy each others companionship to no end.
After our date, we come home rejuvenated, full of life and energy. Our marriage is strengthened, our family happy and our life is completely delightful.
Come Wednesday, my outfit is planned, babysitter is schedule, dinner for the kids is arranged, pep talk for the kids is done, and I'm super excited. Where are we going? What are we doing? I don't care. I'm just excited that my husband and I will be together for a few hours to do nothing more than enjoy each other alone, together away from the world.
I look forward to our dates more than anything, and dating has truly enriched our marriage.
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