 1. Sex
2. Finances 3. Communication There you have it. HubbyHubby and I keep these three in check, and we are good. 1. Sex HubbyHubby wants it eight times a week. My number is different than his. We talk it out, and decide (according to our proper arrangement) what works for our marriage. Yes, ladies. Men want sex all the time (unless they're eating or, in HubbyHubby's case, watching football). Men between the ages 19 and 25 think about sex at least once every five minutes. Men over 25 think about sex at least once every 10 minutes.* We must give them what they need. What's the saying? "If you like the food being served from your kitchen, you don't need to eat out." 2. Finances This is a big one. Decide on a budget. Review it weekly and monthly. Live within your means. Stick to it. I like reading Dave Ramsey at http://www.daveramsey.com 3. Communication
Let's learn more about husbands and treating your man like a king. * Source: Fisher, T. D., Moore, Z. T., & Pittenger, M. (2012)  We have one vehicle, a huge Dodge Ram truck. For me, it's very difficult to drive.
We've had it for five years, and each and every year, I've crashed into something while in reverse: a light pole, a Volkswagen, a Subaru, a Jaguar, a concrete wall in the parking garage. And each and every time I go to HubbyHubby with great apologies, he says, "You can do no wrong, my love." I've adopted the same thinking about him. He sometimes doesn't do things they way I expected or asked--buys the wrong laundry detergent, arrives late for a school event, pays a bill late, yadda-yadda-yadda. I don't bitch, nag or complain. I say to myself, "He can do no wrong." This attitude keeps me thankful and keeps the peace. The next time your hubby doesn't do something exactly the way you planned, try to say to yourself, "He can do no wrong."  It was 98 degrees here in Boulder yesterday.
Around 6:30 p.m., HubbyHubby was upstairs relaxing on the loveseat and watching TV. I went upstairs and sat next to him. It was like an oven in that room. I asked, "Baby, do you think it's hot up here?" I'm not sure if he even answered me. Next thing I know, he's outside at the air conditioner, washing the fins, then downstairs, then upstairs fiddling with vents, then in the utility room looking at the furnace and duct work. At 9:00 p.m. in bed, I cuddle up and say, "Baby, it is so nice and cool up here now. Thanks for fixin' the AC. You are my hero." It may have been a small task for him, but letting him know he is my hero makes him feel like a king. The Fine Print: When you follow my blog and treat your hubby like a king, he will move heaven and earth to make sure you're comfortable and happy, always.  This past week, I was very emotional and sad over a situation.
I went to HubbyHubby and cried and talked and talked and talked. He immediately went into "solution mode" and started to help solve my problem. I love him for trying to solve my situation, but what I needed was for him to listen. Here's why:
When you need him to just listen and hold you, say just that: "Babe, I just need you to listen." When you need a solution, ask him for one. Tip: Tell him about your problem, ask him to listen and provide a solution--tomorrow. That way, he'll really be listening, and he'll feel excited to be on a mission to solve your problem. And you have an entire day without being bothered by him trying to solve your problem. Be clear. Then, thank him for being your hero.  Men are simple, straightforward, and not complicated.
Their top wants are sex and food. When I asked HubbyHubby how many days a week he would like to have sex, he said, "Eight." Without hesitation. Eight. Eight? My number is different than his (eh, lower), but I always keep his number in mind... daily! Lots of sex is the norm for most hubbies. If he's not horny, make him a sandwich. Now, let's read about the top 3 keys in marriage. |
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