After the birth of my third child, I chose the coper IUD for the next 8 years of birth control.
At first it was wonderful! Then slowly, little by little, health problems started to creep up.
After researching all birth control options I was left in tears. I felt hopeless.
One day, while crying at the counter at the local herbal apothecary, I asked the woman behind the counter if there were any other options.
The woman handed me a card for the Fertility Awareness Method. I said, "thanks, but that's how I got pregnant the first time". The woman said, "no, it's different now".
I called Rachel and set up my first appointment.
In short, the Fertility Awareness Method works!
No matter what people tell you, hormonal and invasive birth control can cause problems.
The Fertility Awareness Method is natural birth control that works.
When used correctly, it's has a 98% effective rate and it doesn't wreak your body
There are 6 secrets to make it work:
Our bodies are awesome and wonderfully made.
Don't let hormonal and invasive birth control hurt your body.
Please contact me if you have any questions.
Yes, we considered the vasectomy, but decided against it.
Do you remember someone telling you that marriage is 50/50?
Well, it's not.
In marriage you both give 100%.
For example. If we are doing the 50/50 thing and today I can't do my 50%, now there's a gap. Someone or something doesn't get taken care of.
When we both give 100% to our marriage, then if someone needs extra help, they are covered by their spouse.
It doesn't take 24 hours a day to give your marriage 100%, but this mindset will help build the greatest marriage ever.
Beth and her husband, Patrick, are both physicians. They each contribute to the household finances. They have two school age children and a fun filled life.
There are schedules to keep, children to taxi around, work, meetings, weekends, sports, food shopping, home repairs, home remodels, mortgages, vacations, bills, etc.
Today, Beth asked me "why does my husband need me to be his cheerleader? I'm working a full career with two children, can't he help himself?"
Beth summed up the entirety of all husbands on the planet.
God created man. Then he created woman. Why? Eve was created to HELP Adam.
Adam needed help.
Your husband needs you to help him.
It's not a bad thing. It is what it is and it ALWAYS will be.
As wives, it is our job to bring out the BEST in our husbands by assistance. They need our help.
How do we help them? With love:
1. Stroke their ego
2. Build them up
3. Be their cheerleader
A practical example:
Beth and Patrick are remodeling their house.
15 minuets before Beth has to leave for work, Patrick asks Beth 50 detailed questions about the new molding that needs to be ordered by noon that day.
Beth says, "I don't have time for this right now, with your meticulous attention to detail this will take hours and I don't care which molding you pick! Just pick something, I have to go."
Cheerleader Beth says, "honey, I love these three moldings. You are so good with attention to detail. I know you will choose the best molding and I will absolutely love it. You are brilliant when it comes to this. I love that you want the molding to be perfect and I love the fact that you care so deeply about our remodel. Thank you for taking all this time to choose what's best. You are such a great man. I am so blessed that you are my husband."
Cheerleader Beth builds up her husband and turns his neurotic attention to detail into his strength.
Patrick feels like a hero, Beth goes to work happy, the molding gets ordered, Beth is happy and proud that she loved up her husband and brought out the best in him.
Here's the kicker:
That night Patrick puts the kids to bed early for Beth. He lights a candle, pours Beth a glass of wine, turns on some nice music, and lays the sun, moon, and stars at Beth's feet.
Ladies, when we build up our men, they will worship the ground we walk on and give you the attention, love and adoration exceeding, abundantly above all that we could ask or think.
The top three keys to a successful marriage are:
Finances can wreak havoc on a marriage.
Here are 5 easy tips to keep your marriage first and keep your finances from stressing you out.
1. Live within your means.
Regardless of what people tell you, debt is slavery. Stay debt-free. Pay off credit cards every month. Buy only what you can afford. This may take time to change your thinking, but it's well worth it. If you are in debt, make a plan to pay things off or sell them if you can. Living without debt is traveling light and gets rid of financial stress instantly.
2. Be thankful for what you have.
When you find yourself wanting more than you need, make a list of what you have and be thankful for it. The most important things in life really are your family and friends. More "stuff" takes more money and more time to manage. Take that time and spend it on the people in your life that really matter. Don't always be looking for the "next big thing" to make you happy.
With all the technology available from banks, apps and websites; budgeting is a no-brainer. Budgeting keeps you focused and on track. It allows you to "spend" all you monthly income on paper and plan ahead for things you need. For example, I needed three pairs of sneakers. A pair for Crossfit, a pair for running, and a pair for hiking trails. This month I bought one pair, then I put the other two pairs that I needed in the following two month's budget. In this day and age we can impulse buy with one click and have our item on our doorstep in 24 hours. Budgeting allows us to control our money instead of our "wants" controlling us.
4. Keep a running record of things you need/want.
I keep a list of all the things I need and want in the "notes" section of my phone. As I add items I look over items from the beginning of the list. 9 times out of 10, I have forgotten that I needed the item, don't need the item anymore, or don't want the item and it gets deleted. Then I say to myself, "ah! I just saved $50 bucks."
5. Talk to your husband about the finances every week or every month.
Check in with each other. Discuss things that are coming up and make plans using the keys above. When you're like-minded with each other and have the same goals and dreams, your finances will work for you and not against you.
Sometimes I was dishes by hand and let them dry on a dish towel next to the sink.
When my husband comes home from work, he washes his hands at the kitchen sink. He then pulls the dish rag out from under all my drying dishes to dry his hands. ARGH!!!!! This drives me nuts! In fact, I threatened to draw up the divorce papers.
Solution #1 Divorce.
Solution #2 Buy a dish drying mat and always keep a towel next to the sink.
I know this sounds simple, but my point is this:
Don't let the little things hurt your marriage. It's NOT worth it. Find a solution to keep the peace and move on.
Simple. Effective. Happy Marriage! xo
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