Tonight, I went out to celebrate a friend's birthday.
During happy hour with my friends, one gal told us all that she and her hubby were 100% out of debt.
She said, "Yeah, I wanted to go on a cruise to celebrate my graduation and my degree, but my hubby said, 'How are we gonna pay for it?'"
She replied, "On a credit card."
He said, "No."
She said, "Okay. Yeah, you're right."
Listen to your hubby. Say, "Yes," and agree with his decisions and support him.
Don't sulk, bitch or nag about what you don't get or don't agree with. He's probably been thinking about your shared, long-term financial goals for years. And an idea for a cruise that you just came up with simply might not be feasible. By all means, tell him your celebration ideas. Don't hold back. But...
Remember, hubby makes the final decision.
While camping this weekend, there was lots of heavy stuff to haul in and out of the truck and cabin.
Some things I could lift, and some things I asked HubbyHubby to lift.
Husbands need to feel strong--not necessarilybe strong, just feel strong.
What strong, manly job can you ask your hubby to do for you?
Here are some ideas:
Then say, "Oh, baby, that box was so heavy. You are so strong. Thank you so much. Here's a cold drink." Then give him a sweet kiss and a pat on the ass and say, "You're my iron man." :)
I know what you're thinking.
It sounds like mistreatment. Or it may sound stupid, or just plain wrong. But men need to feel strong, and they need us to tell them that they are, because they are indeed.
When HubbyHubby and I were dating, every outfit I wore was chosen with intentional effort.
I dressed to get and keep his attention.
Men are visual.
After 12 years of marriage, I keep up on my attractiveness for HubbyHubby.
Have you ever walked down the street and your hubby or other men turn their heads to look at a pretty woman?
Be that woman.
Dress nice for your hubby. Choose and lay out your outfits the night before.
Too many of us let our appearance go, especially when we become mothers.
Remember when you were a sexy wife, before you were a mother?
When something around the house breaks or leaks, I call HubbyHubby. He's good at those things. And I think that's sexy.
If HubbyHubby wasn't in my life, my house would be crap, or I'd be broke from calling service contractors.
Now, don't get me wrong. HubbyHubby is a fully-equipped man. A man's man. He can do all things. But let me tell you, when he fixes something, especially something I broke, I think it's... well... sexy.
And I tell him. "Babe, thank you so much for fixing that for me. I love you. And... I like that hammer you got."
Two things good happened just then. HubbyHubby is pumped up, and the house is back in order.
It may be a cliché, but I love my handy-HubbyHubby. I love that he can do things, things I can't. And that I can do things, things he can't. But, in general, around the house, HubbyHubby takes care of things. And that's a man.
Ladies... do you appreciate the things HubbyHubby takes care of? If you do, show it.
The worst thing you can do as a wife is to never be happy.
HubbyHubby lives to make me happy.
He asks me several times a day, "Are you happy?" "How you doin'?" "Did you take a break today?" "Did you have fun today?"
Husbands live and breathe to know that their wives are happy, and that they are the source of that happiness. A man likes the way it feels when he knows that his woman is feeling great, and hate the way it feels when she's sad, and will do anything to change that.
Just Between You and Me:
Yes, I know we are not happy all the time. We have bad days and sad times. But feelings come and go. We can decide to be happy or sad. Try to resolve your temporary situation and decide to be happy.
Sometimes, I even go to HubbyHubby and say, "I'm sad. I need someone to talk to." And he knows from past conversations to just listen and hold me.
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