After the kidos are in bed, I like to read or knit. HubbyHubby likes to watch TV.
We do different things, but sit together -- right smack next to each other.
We hold hands. I put my hand on his thigh. He puts his arm around me. Whatever.
You know... we touch.
While making breakfast or dinner, I give HubbyHubby a pat or pinch on the butt. Maybe a kiss. A sweet flirty look. I lick my lips.
HubbyHubby loves the flirty-touchy attention at random times of day. Men love a good squeeze. Or hot kiss in the ear. Make it short and sweet. Pretend you don't want to get caught by the kids, or by the neighbors through the window. That's hot.
What opportunities do you have during the day to put your hands (or lips) on your hubby?
Have you ever been on a ship? Who's in charge? Who has the final say? Who's steering this thing?
The captain, of course.
Let me tell you about HubbyHubby, the captain of this ship we call our family. On Saturday mornings, we all have breakfast together and talk about the things we'd like to do that day. The girls give their ideas. I give mine. And HubbyHubby gives his. We chit-chat and come up with more ideas.
After breakfast, HubbyHubby might say, "We're gonna go hike Sanitas." That's Mount Sanitas.
There might be some moaning, some groaning, and maybe a little crying and gnashing of teeth from the girls. Even sudden tummyaches and headaches might develop. Hmm. It's not looking good. I can just tell that this is not a good decision, I say to myself. No matter. Captain says, "Let's go." And we go.
HubbyHubby and I pack snacks and water. We gather the troops. And we head out. Oh, boy.
But wouldn't you know... No more than 15 minutes into the hike and there are giggles, laughter, running, skipping, bird-watching, and fun chit-chat. We're all having a great time. Hiking Mount Sanitas. Huh! How about that?
When HubbyHubby is the captain of the ship and shows vision and leadership, the whole family gets on board and has fun.
Is your husband the captain? No? Let him take a leadership role. See what happens. Ya might be pleasantly surprised.
Today we were in a restaurant having lunch with three other couples.
The husbands were talking about guy stuff; the wives were talking about gal stuff.
HubbyHubby turns to me and says, "Babe, the guys are going out to see a movie tonight at 8:00."
I started to run the day and evening schedule through my head to see if it would work.
HubbyHubby lovingly said, "Just say, 'Yes.'"
"Yes, my love. Yes."
This reminded me that HubbyHubby needs to go out for guy time. And when the guys make a plan, I need to say, "Okay," and figure out the rest.
HubbyHubby wasn't asking for my permission. He wasn't asking for the schedule. He wasn't looking for a discussion. He was telling me of his need, and he wanted to let me know and allow me to meet his need.
After I responded with "Yes," I could see and hear the third couple still talking it out. The wife had said, "No." He couldn't go out because he was to see that movie the following night with her and the family.
Two out of three men went out that night.
Ladies, when our husbands say they want to go out with the guys, let them go. Your sincere, smiling, response should be, "Okay, have fun. And be good."
Don't give him a song and a dance. Do not reply with any of the following: "When?" "Where?" "With who?" "Wait, let me think." "Why?" "What time will you be back?" "Again?" "How long?" Blah, blah, blah.
When your hubby mentions "the guys," sincerely encourage him to make a "man date."
You can even bring it up yourself and say, "Hey, your favorite team is playing. You should call the guys and go watch it at the sports bar. Yell at the big-screen TV."
You do this simple thing. You do this once a month or so. Do this, and you'll be rewarded with a most happy hubby.
What do you like about your Hubby?
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