Sarah is getting married to Ryan in one year.
Sarah and Ryan invited Ryan's mom, Lisa to see the wedding venue.
The problem is that Lisa hates the venue and hates the fact that Sarah and Ryan are not getting married by a minister in a church. Lisa not only continually voices her negative opinion; she attacks and blames Sarah constantly. Lisa also bad-mouths Sarah to both sides of the family.
Now, Sarah receives harassing texts and phone calls about the wedding from relatives she's never even met before.
What's even worse, is that this negative outside garbage is affecting Sarah and Ryan's soon-to-be marriage relationship. Their evening conversations now involve yelling and arguing at each other.
What is poor Sarah to do?
Yes, that's correct. Nothing.
This is a job for Ryan. This is where Ryan steps in and protects his bride. Ryan's job is to confront and absorb what negative or detrimental influences he can for Sarah. He shouldn't expect Sarah to handle more than she can. Loving oversight, care, and protection provided by Ryan that Sarah is submitting to by doing nothing.
In this situation, Ryan needs to put on his big boy pants, confront his mother and put an end to the harassment.
Think of Ryan as a knight in shining armor saving his beautiful bride. Ryan is to love, cherish and nourish Sarah so that crazy in-laws do not stress her.
Yes, in today's age Sarah could go to battle for herself. She could hire a mediator or confront the mother-in-law along with Ryan. However; this causes Sarah to be stressed. When Sarah is stressed that results in less love, attention and affection she can give Ryan.
This applies to all areas of life, Ryan does his best to confront and handle the negatives.
Oh, there is one thing Sarah can do here to help.
Sarah can honor and esteem Ryan. She can bring out the best in him by assistance. She can comfort, encourage, and do him only good as long as there is life within her. Sarah builds up Ryan so he can be his best.
This example of Sarah and Ryan's stressful situation can be applied to other situations that arise as well. After the wedding Sarah and Ryan will face other intense things like; finances, jobs, bosses, clients, weather, home issues, children, school and list goes on and on.
Yes, somethings Sarah will have to endure. She's not a fragile china doll. However the key point for the marriage relationship is that one of the husband's responsibilities is to confront and absorb what negative or detrimental influences he can for his wife. He shouldn't expect his wife to handle more than she can. Loving oversight, care, and protection provided by the husband is what the wife submits to.
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