He makes you cry.
He does things that make you wonder ...WTF? His friends come before you. His hobbies come before you. His mother/family comes before you. His work comes before you. He says negative things to you. He doesn't have his sh*t together. He's inconsiderate. Your in couples therapy. You get the point. You deserve the best. Don't settle. God has your husband already picked out for you.
This fact is proven and written in Genesis 2:18 "it is not good that man should be alone" Well, ladies.... that's where we come in. God's design is for you to have a husband. Yay! God's job: Have that man available for you at the right place and the right time. Your job: Expect to meet your husband every single day. Always be ready. How to be ready everyday: 1. Always look your best 2. Make eye contact and smile at all unmarried men you think are cute. This lets them know your are kind and sweet and approachable. If he has the balls to speak to you, great. If he doesn't, then say hello to him. The only thing you have to loose is your pride. 3. Date as much as possible (3-4 times a week) 4. Do fun things with fun groups of people. Examples: take a salsa class, join a running group, join a biking group, join a rock climbing group, join a surfing group, join a volleyball team, join any kind of sports team, take workout classes, soprts bars, libraries, study groups, book clubs. Get out where the men are! Write it down. Take a piece of paper and fold it long ways (hot dog style) On the top left write "Needs" then list everything you need your man to be. On the top right print "Wants" then list everything you want your man to be. Put this on your mirror or fridge. Every morning look at your list say out loud, "today I will meet my husband". Confession of believe equals receipt of confession These practical keys are call The Law of Believing. It is believing (action) equals receiving. When you believe and take action to meet your husband you will. This is an immutable law. Do you your best, let God do the rest. After all, He want's the best for you. In studying and applying the "how to's of marriage" I've come up with the 4 A's.
Attention Acceptance Admiration Ass Always let your hubby know that he is the most important person in your life. 1. Attention - Give him attention at the best time in the best way he likes it. Here are some ideas: give him a squeeze and a kiss when he comes home from work listen attentively to him talk about his day comment on how great he is look at him when you and he converse sit next to him every chance you get always look for ways to touch him or hold on to him lots of physical touch.... like two young people in romantic infatuation 2. Acceptance - A happy state of mind when you realize that it's not your job to make hime over but appreciate him for the man he is. Ideas: accept your hubby for the man he is today, without any changes focus on his virtues and goodness don't worry about his fault only look at his good side you are the one secure haven where he can be himself, relax and feel secure a steady diet of praise 3. Admiration - Admire his manliness; his masculine skills, abilities, achievements, ideas, dreams, and manly body. He needs admiration. The center of your hubby's happiness in marriage is to be admired. Ideas: tell him you love his strong muscles comment on any and all of his masculine skills (computer, building, finance, fixing things) tell him you love his broad shoulders and strong arms 4. Ass - Need I say more? Today I had coffee with Zoe.
Zoe told me of an extremely difficult time in her marriage. A time of life and death. The situation she and her husband faced ends 98% of all marriages. It is a situation you and I most likely have never, or will never face. How did she and her husband survive and stay together? They decided to be a team. To stick together and fight together against the problem. Not against each other. It was her father who was visiting, who sat them down and said, "I've hear enough, you've been fighting for days. Get your sh*t together and get on the same page." Zoe decided to do just that. She made a conscious decision which took effort, work and a renewing of her mind. She decided to work with her husband, not against him and fight the situation together. Zoe said it took work and commitment, and together she and her husband were victorious. What are you and your hubby fighting about? Take the high road and look at your situation from birds eye view. Why are you fighting against the greatest partner you have? Be a team. Be together. Stay together. Oh and, as my hubby ALWAYS ALWAYS says.... "the make-up sex is the BEST!" Ojas.
Now that your having WAY more sex, you need to replenish yourself and your hubby. Here's what you'll need: 20 raisins soaked in 1 cup water overnight 10 skinless almonds, soaked overnight 1/2 teaspoon cardamom a dash of pepper 2 threads of saffron 1 teaspoons ghee 1 teaspoon organic roses Here's what to do: In the morning drain the water off the almonds. Peel the almonds and throw away the skins. Put all the ingredients in your VitaMix and blend until smooth. You and your husband each drink half, 2-4 times a week. |
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